I was reading the newspaper yesterday and was appalled that Singaporeans were even suggesting that polygamy should be allowed to curb the rise of divorce rate in this country. Muslims can multi-marry (ain’t that grand?), provided that their wives would agree to it and that the guy is rich enough to raise a bigger family. What surprised me the most was that two women sent in letters agreeing to such a proposal.
One pointed out that extra-marital affairs will surely stop – and men visiting brothels as well – once it is legitimized. It would likewise result in more births and resolve the woes of the singletons. More births, all right! Do they even stop and think why guys take the road of having extra-marital affairs or visit the brothels? There is such as thing called non-committal relationships. Men who would rather have a wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am moment than take home another woman to provide for until the end of their days.
The singles’ woes, which I knew nothing about, are way beyond my comprehension. Aren’t there enough singles to pick on the future guy to bring home to momma? If these singletons think that only the married ones are worthy of marriage, then I’m probably in a whacked out world. They believe that successful, wealthy men deserve to have more than one wife. Ugh! Wouldn’t it be lovely, if all the wives to out together to do some shopping?
Not that we are living in a chauvinistic world, it was even suggested that this should be extended to women, as well. If it is to solve the problem of men whose needs are not met by just one wife; it should also solve the problem of women whose needs are not met by just one husband. Hah!
People here in Singapore are already given so much leeway with divorce. They can declare their independence once they feel like they want out of the relationship. Divorce, for a woman, is also one way out of an abusive marriage. Just telling the wife that there are other girls worthy of her husband’s affection is abusive enough, much more if the husband brings home another girl.
In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, grounds for marriage. – Robert Anderson
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